Monthly Archives: September 2014

Understanding why women stay

Originally posted on my life in pajamas:
My post today is my response to a blog post entitled Battered Women Syndrome and Why Women Stay in Abusive Relationships. The worse case scenario is death, and those women at risk sense…

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BBQ Corn with Parmesan crust – another recipe to cook away codependency

 When Sue was visiting we went to Smorgasburg in Williamsburg.  There was one kiosk with the longest line and even when it began to rain, no one moved. I had to see what they had. Corn, spread with butter and

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“I elected to stay”

 If a man has taken to his fists to control you, you need to start planning an exit through the back door or any window of opportunity you can find. However if your relationship is emotionally abusive and there is no

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The Waiting Room

 Co-dependents could be called patient because we can wait – for hours and years. When I look back my life feels like a waiting room. I waited for him to stop being angry with me. I waited for him to love me again, and

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BBQ Caesar salad – another recipe from cooking codependency away

 I’m always looking for new ways to spin an old favorite. Works so much better with a recipe than with a man!  Romaine spears 2 eggs, boiled and chopped Caesar dressing ¼ cup red wine vinegar 1 lemon, juiced 2

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Retail therapy is not therapy

 Sue has asked me to write a blog called “Retail therapy is not therapy”. As is often the case when we speak, I am yanked back to the past with fresh eyes.  In the past I called shopping “retail therapy”

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Friend or foe?

 Friendships are called support networks because that’s precisely what they are. They are our anchors through turbulent waters. We tell secrets and hear secrets, share news and spread news and sometimes are just together through the passage of time. Our

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