BBQ Caesar salad – another recipe from cooking codependency away

BBQ Caeser salad I’m always looking for new ways to spin an old favorite. Works so much better with a recipe than with a man!

  •  Romaine spears
  • 2 eggs, boiled and chopped

Caesar dressing

  • ¼ cup red wine vinegar
  • 1 lemon, juiced
  • 2 tsp Dijon mustard
  • 1-2 cloves garlic
  • 1 can anchovies
  • 1 Tbl Worcestershire sauce
  • ¼ tsp black pepper
  • Salt to taste
  • ¼ cup grated Parmesan cheese
  • 1 cup olive oil

Place all ingredients in a food processor. Mix well. Slowly pour the olive oil while the motor is running. Mix until emulsified. Check seasonings. Depending on which anchovies you use, it may not be necessary to add salt.

Cut just the ends off Romaine spears but still keep the root intact. This way they won’t fall apart on the barbecue. Brush them with oil and place on barbecue. Lightly brown both sides. Place on platter, drizzle with dressing, and scatter with chopped egg and Parmesan.


I was married to not one abuser, not two, but three. I fled from South Africa and from an extremely violent and traumatic marriage to a very well-known Johannesburg personality and resolved to learn a lesson and be more careful next time. In America I met a man who, on the surface, was everything that my second husband was not. Until I owned her own contribution to the dance of abuse I was destined to repeat the pattern. My story exists as proof of this. I am driven to help abused women as I know all too well what it feels like to be misunderstood and ashamed of my inability to let go of a relationship that was killing me. “It’s like wanting to hug a shark – why on earth would anyone do that?” I understand because I have been there, emerged damaged and broken from there and then – heaven forbid – went back! I know what it feels like to yearn for the love of a man who pulled out your hair, spat in your face and tried to choke you. I know what it feels like to tell people you are back there and watch their faces and see them thinking, “then you deserve what you get!” By telling my story, I hope to lift the veil of shame off abuse and encourage women to do the same. Un-silencing the voice is where true healing begins.

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