BBQ Corn with Parmesan crust – another recipe to cook away codependency

corn (1) When Sue was visiting we went to Smorgasburg in Williamsburg.  There was one kiosk with the longest line and even when it began to rain, no one moved. I had to see what they had. Corn, spread with butter and mayonnaise and coated in Parmesan cheese. I couldn’t wait to make it when I got home.

Peel the leaves away from the corn. Brush corn with melted butter and replace the leaves. Barbecue for 20 minutes, turning every 5 minutes or so. When they are done, peel back the leaves, lightly spread with mayonnaise and dip into grated Parmesan cheese.


I was married to not one abuser, not two, but three. I fled from South Africa and from an extremely violent and traumatic marriage to a very well-known Johannesburg personality and resolved to learn a lesson and be more careful next time. In America I met a man who, on the surface, was everything that my second husband was not. Until I owned her own contribution to the dance of abuse I was destined to repeat the pattern. My story exists as proof of this. I am driven to help abused women as I know all too well what it feels like to be misunderstood and ashamed of my inability to let go of a relationship that was killing me. “It’s like wanting to hug a shark – why on earth would anyone do that?” I understand because I have been there, emerged damaged and broken from there and then – heaven forbid – went back! I know what it feels like to yearn for the love of a man who pulled out your hair, spat in your face and tried to choke you. I know what it feels like to tell people you are back there and watch their faces and see them thinking, “then you deserve what you get!” By telling my story, I hope to lift the veil of shame off abuse and encourage women to do the same. Un-silencing the voice is where true healing begins.

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3 comments on “BBQ Corn with Parmesan crust – another recipe to cook away codependency
  1. WritesinPJ's says:

    Our sweet corn is done, but I hope to try this next summer!


  2. WritesinPJ's says:

    Reblogged this on my life in pajamas and commented:
    Okay, I know this might not be the healthiest recipe, but I’ll use organic mayo 😉 It looks so doggone yummy that I had to share it here!


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