Monthly Archives: October 2014

Sex, lies and snooping – an extract from Abuse Ends When You Love Yourself

 The other day Sue and I were talking about snooping. In my opinion if some-one has nothing to hide then surely they can have no objection to total transparency. Sue disagreed. With thinly disguised irritation I replied, “ I don’t

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Anna’s story: Why me?

  “My mother was mad. She was also beautiful and charming. To the world she was an eccentric delight but behind closed doors she was a nightmare. Everyone and especially my father, allowed her carte blanche to do as she

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In loving memory of Osho

  For the last fourteen years Osho, my Yorkshire terrier has been my constant companion. On Tuesday morning I woke up and my precious Osho had died during the night. I know he was old and have known for years that

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The underbelly of my beast

 One night when Sue visited she was going up the stairs to the guest bedroom when I announced that I was to blame for the abuse. “What do you mean?” she asked shocked as she sat on the steps not

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Persimmon and arugula salad – another recipe from Abuse ends when you love yourself

 One of my favorite restaurants in LA is Gjelina on Abbot Kinney. It was here that I was introduced to this wonderful combination of simple ingredients. Any of your favorite dressings will work – I just love the flavor of

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Out of Africa

 “I once had a farm in Africa” are the opening lines of Karen Blixen’s book “Out of Africa”. She then describes in almost excruciating detail where her farm was (in Kenya) and what it looked like. She describes the plateaux

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Trick or Treat

 Skeletons, vampires, wizards, witches and the occasional Elvis Presley will soon be arriving at my doorstep calling “trick or treat, trick or treat”. I have found my lanterns and spider webs, carved my pumpkins and will fill my bowls with

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