A collage to cast away codependency

Collage (1) We all know the saying – a picture is worth a thousand words. The brain loves pictures and processes them easily. John Kehoe has written very helpful books on harnessing the power of the subconscious mind. His book “Mind Power in the 21st Century” speaks of the power of energy to create reality. There is a basic quantum physics assumption that “energy creates form”. What is energy as it pertains to those of us trying to heal and grow? A thought has energy and so negative thinking will create a consequence and positive thinking will create a better consequence. Speech has an even greater energy and action has more energy than anything. Everything we think, feel, say and do creates itself in a physical form.

It really is a wonderful book and he teaches the power of affirmation (something you say over and over again to programme the mind to accept and create it.) He teaches the power of visualization. The brain likes pictures and so will be easily programmed by a picture and herein lies the power of the collage to heal your life. You are giving your brain a picture – the same picture – every day and it will begin to re-programme you sub-conscious mind.

Some of us are better at visualization than others. I for one struggle to hold an image in my mind for any length of time let alone imbue it with detail. So if I am to train my sub-conscious mind to create with the use of a visualization I need the visualization to be sustained and constant. For this I use the collage.

To make a collage requires you to stick two pieces of A4 paper together to give you sufficient space to be creative. Give your collage a heading and a date at the back. Call it something like “Creator of Dreams” or “the Dream Maker”. Then go through a pile of magazines and pull out pictures that depict the life you would like to have. I always recommend a photograph of yourself in the middle but only if seeing yourself doesn’t set off anxieties about how you look and stress about your weight or wrinkles. Make a pile of pictures and cut them out. Cut out words too –“ Happiness”, “What a fantastic opportunity”, “Beautiful Day”. Cut out any phrase that forms part of your dream life and place that across or underneath the picture.

I have a few personal favorites. When I make a collage I always cut out an eye and place it somewhere on my collage because it means wisdom and insight to me and with every dream life must always come wisdom and insight. I don’t use a photograph of myself because I am never crazy about how I look in photographs but I always have at least one picture of a flower which is my signature for myself. I also always put in a saying that is meaningful to me at the time or always – my favorite is, “The purpose of life is to plant trees under whose shade you never intend to sit”. It is important that there are no white spaces between the pictures. They can overlap or be placed right up against each other but no spaces on the page. It must be processed holistically.

Design your collage and glue it down and then put it under your bed. Just before you turn the light out each night, take it out and stare at it for a minute or two or three. It should be the last thing your mind’s eye sees before you turn out the light. In this way you are creatively conditioning your sub-conscious mind to create the reality in that picture. Ironically you will find that even though you created it for the first week or two it will surprise you every time you look at it. It means that the brain has not remembered it yet, has not processed it. Every time you look at it you empower the subconscious mind to create it.

My daughter grew up watching me create collages when I had a problem and needed to change my mind-set on something. One day she sat on the bed and said, “Does this mean that things are not good again?” I remember that I laughed and said, “It means that they could be better and are about to be”. She makes beautiful collages today and I always ask her to keep them because they really are pieces of art. She has seen many made and has become an expert herself now. She was really dubious about the merits of the collage when she was much younger. I once put onto one of my collages a picture of a bus in London. About a year later we were in London together and a bus drove past. She stood dead still and I remember her saying, “NO WAY!!! There is that stupid bus you put on the collage!” There are no more sarcastic remarks about the collage but I see several beautiful ones have been made.

Author, foodie, political junkie and currrently writing a series for children, giving bible stories a much needed makeover, free from religious dogma. Author of Hot Cuisine, a book written on men and food and co-wrote When Loving Him Hurts and The Affair.

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