Monthly Archives: November 2014

Are you as sick as the secrets you keep?

 The first assignment in our book, Abuse ends when you love yourself asks the reader to tell her story. Not only is it therapeutic to tell your story but it also shows us the links and patterns that connect the

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You don’t deserve him!

 There is nothing like infidelity to play havoc with our insecurities and sense of self-worth. Our knee jerk response to the bitter pill of betrayal is that we are going to throw him out, reject him and stand tall in

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So tell me – what really happened on your honeymoon?

 Sue believes that everything we ever needed to know about the success or failure of our marriage was apparent before we got married and highlighted during the honeymoon. Honeymoon expectations are such that almost nobody will ever “confess” that actual

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Are you terrified of him but more terrified without him?

  Where is your “safe house”? A safe house is a place to which women run when their lives are at risk. They literally flee to a strange place, filled with strangers who share only your fear for your safety.

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Is gratitude damaging your health?

  Gratitude is a complicated issue for the co-dependent because gratitude is one of our struggles. We are much too grateful to be healthy. When our abusers smile in our direction we are relieved and grateful. An apology is almost

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The voices in my head – do you believe the worst stories about yourself?

 One of the issues that all co-dependents share is their struggle with independent thinking. Many children are brought up in an environment that fails to nurture their confidence. The co-dependent was brought up with erratic criticism. One day something they

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Do you live the lies you were told?

 “The more my eyes dim, the clearer I can see…..” “My husband has been dead for almost a year. I remember his funeral as though it was yesterday although nothing has ever felt as shocking. Since then I have learnt

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