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An Inmate’s Story – A Lesson In Codependency

Every month I run our program at the California Institution for Women. Most of the women are doing life sentences, having murdered their partners and all victims of abuse. Corinne Ho, pictured with me, is on my board of The

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How to Find the Golden Goose in Abuse

You know how you thought that when you met the man of your dreams he would change? And he did. For the worst. But you still held onto him because you believed that having anybody was better than having nobody.

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Abused women are voiceless and faceless – please help Say NO to abuse “When Loving Him Hurts” will be available in bookstores in July. NOT GOOD ENOUGH! The majority of women still don’t read self-help books. Most abused women think

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The Facebook Lie!

 Women in emotionally abusive relationships usually parade their relationships as something they are not. They spend an inordinate amount of time pretending to the world that they are a couple, and they often describe themselves as the perfect couple. They

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When loving him hurts – The Passion Paradox

 Falling in love is about excitement, yearning, desire and passion. It sounds like falling in lust would be equally appropriate. Lust is something men do. The female narrative is love. It is the lace and lavender of lust. Love…. Lust..

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When loving him hurts

 Loving hurts – inevitably. When we begin the love relationship it offers the promise of “happily ever after”. We feel excited, safe, strong, and beautiful and ready for what we only intellectually accept will be the challenges of the relationship.

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Are you a nacissist? Take the test

 What is narcissism? Narcissism is a personality disorder and Psychology Today suggests that up to 6% of the population suffer from it. Research also shows that the people most likely to have an affair are narcissists. The word “narcissism” comes

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